We are generally fearful of visiting a sex therapist; he/she is considered to be more of a weirdo than a doctor or a counselor. Fears like, “the sex therapist will recommend a threesome or some such activity to add some spice to our sex lives” and “I will have to share all my inner secrets with someone unknown” are some of the few thoughts to cross our minds. However, it is essential to get over your fears. So, when is a sex therapist required? Are there any signals? Yes, surely there are indicators, read on for more information.
Indicator No. 1 – Very Frequent Fights Over Sex. Arguments about sex are normal with your partner. But when they get converted into full-blown fights and the frequency is very high or when the fights are never ending and recurring in nature, you know it’s time to look for a good sex therapist.
Indicator No. 2 – Mismatch in Sex Drives. Some amount of disagreement in the preferences regarding the sexual acts is normal, but if you can not reach a common footing or a happy solution, then you must turn to sex therapy for a mutually agreed compromise. A sex therapist will address your psychological barriers and make it easy for you to handle refusal so that it does not end up in a fight.
Indicator No. 3 – Lack of Sex Drive in One. This is a variation of the above indicator and one partner lacks sex drive completely leading to frustration in the relationship. Sexual desire can dwindle due to anger, stress or some other medical issue. A sex therapist will help you find the reason and cure it while providing the much needed mental support for both the partners during such situations.
Indicator No. 4 – You Feel the Need to Spice It up. This is not a problem in itself, but could lead to problems including frustration, fights and discord. It is important to keep inventing and innovating to keep your sex life exciting. If you are together for an extended period, chances are that your sex life has become predictable and even boring. A sex therapist will recommend some new positions and techniques to bring back the excitement in your bedroom, thereby avoiding future issues.
Indicator No.5 – Performance Issues. Generally men can have some issues like lack of erection, quick orgasm or not reaching orgasm at all. Many women are not informed enough about orgasm and do not know how to reach it with the partner. There may be various reasons for these issues. These performance issues can lead to stress and frustration during sex and you may stop enjoying sex. Sex therapist helps you improve in these aspects and also makes you more confident and less anxious thereby letting you enjoy sex more.
Most of us feel afraid or shy to visit a sex therapist for various reasons. This is a totally understandable phenomenon as we are all afraid of visiting even a dentist. However, if we keep ignoring this requirement, it can result in very big problems. It could even lead to broken marriages. It is therefore essential to maintain a healthy and enjoyable sex life and for this it may be important to visit a good sex therapist at some point in your lives. Keep looking for the above indicators and you will generally not go wrong.